Shyness and Fear of Public Speaking
Fear of Public Speaking, Interview Nerves
Shyness and fear of public speaking are very common, as is being nervous about meeting new people. They’re really the same fear. Fear of public speaking appears in every list of the top ten most commonphobias. It is also known as stage fright or performance anxiety.
The first mistake people make is to believe that public speaking, or meeting new people, is itself stressful. But that really can’t be the case. If it were, then everyone would have it! There’d be no exceptions. Many people don’t, though, so it must mean something else is going on.
It’s what you tell yourself about public speaking that makes it seem stressful>/h2>
It’s the way you think about public speaking, or meeting people, which makes it difficult. What is it you’re thinking when you worry about speaking in public or meeting someone new? For most people it is not really a fear of public speaking, or meeting strangers itself that’s the problem.
It’s about making a mistake, your audience being critical, fear of embarrassment, or forgetting what to say. You may be nervous of being judged, of being asked a question you can’t answer, stuttering or stammering, blushing, or not being approved of or liked.
It’s really all about worrying what others think of you. Fear of public speaking is rooted in shyness and self consciousness. When you’re relaxed you speak normally and confidently. But when worried, instead you’re overly aware of what others might think and how you come across.
Hypnotherapy and hypnosis work incredibly well to help you overcome your fear of public speaking and to help shyness generally. Even those people who don’t normally suffer with shyness or self consciousness can feel daunted at the thought of public speaking or going to an interview. Hypnosis builds confidence so that you feel comfortable in ANY situation.
How phobias and social anxiety can start
Just because something has been difficult in the past doesn’t mean it will be difficult in the future.
Sometimes meeting people or speaking in public becomes a phobia because you’ve suffered stress, embarrassment and anxiety in these situations in the past. You now can’t think of an interview, or speaking in public, or meeting someone new, without having the feeling of anxiety which went along with it previously.
You might be consciously aware of this, or it might be going on at a subconscious level. But just because you’ve suffered shyness, embarrassment, or anxiety in a past situation doesn’t mean you’re bound to feel the same every time something similar happens. Imagine you bumped your car yesterday, and that just before it happened, a certain song came on the radio. It doesn’t mean that every time you hear that song you will bump your car!
How hypnosis helps fear of public speaking and interviews
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy help you to forget to remember to feel stress and anxiety. You’ll be asked to imagine speaking in public, meeting new people, being in an interview, or on the phone to a difficult client. But you’ll do this when you’re very relaxed, in hypnosis.
Because of this, you’ll be able to think about them without without the associated feelings of anxiety, self consciousness or shyness. This lets you deal with those situations when they really happen without those unpleasant feelings. This is possible because you’ll no longer make that automatic association between the situation and the feeling of anxiety, shyness and embarrassment.
Fear of public speaking is related to anxiety
For some people it is not about a particular past event or events but because they are generally anxious,stressed and worried. If you are anxious, you are overly aware of others’ reactions, and very sensitive to the possibility of things going wrong.
Manchester Hypnotherapy can help you get rid of the shyness and anxiety you’ve experienced in previous social situations, when speaking publicly, or in interviews or performances. This ensures that your past experiences do not effect your future performance. We can help you gain confidence and develop positive ways to think about feeling confident with people.
We can show you how to remain calm and relaxed and teach you some really fantastic techniques for allowing you to remain relaxed and just talk to people. Once you’ve learned them, the techniques can be used anywhere – a party, a bar, at work, a job interview, or speaking at a wedding or other special occasion.
Tips to help with meeting people, stage fright and fear of public speaking
1. Remember that it’s NOT in itself stressful. It’s just the things you tell yourself about public speaking and those other situations that makes it seem like it is!
2. You don’t have to be perfect or absolutely brilliant – no-one is. You are allowed mistakes and stumbles. You’ll notice these far more than anyone else. If you do make a mistake, you can just laugh it off. You can even admit to feeling nervous – people will warm to you. Humility and the ability to laugh at yourself means people see you as human and likeable. We’ve all been around people who will never admit to making a mistake – and they’re not easy company!
3. You don’t have to try and be like someone else. Doing this is very difficult. Just be yourself – because this is very easy!
4. It’s impossible to please everyone – there are too many different points of view in the world. Don’t try and do this – be true to yourself. Assertiveness training can help with this.
5. You can’t control the behaviour of the people listening to you. If they want to talk, or eat, or drink, or listen to their iPods – that’s about them, not about you.
6 The more you think about it, the more difficult it gets. Just relax and feel comfortable. You speak every day, without ever having to really think about it. And you don’t make mistakes, or if you do, you just move on to the next thing. It is anxiety that makes public speaking, interviews and presentations seem difficult. Just relax and the anxiety will fade away. Hypnotherapy teaches you to do this.
Phobias and shyness stop you from living your life to the full
Even if you’re otherwise calm, relaxed and in control, you can find it difficult to have to get up and speak to a group of people. This is especially so on an important occasion such as a wedding, or if it makes a difference to whether or not you get a promotion or a new job.
Barbra Streisand, Rihanna and Adele have all talked about being physically sick before going on stage. (For more information on feeling or being sick, or rushing to the loo when nervous, look at the page on panic and anxiety attacks). This page explains why you get the physical symptoms you do when you are anxious.
Performance Anxiety Affects some surprising people!
Aretha Franklin and Meryl Streep all suffer badly with performance anxiety. So did Laurence Olivier. And these people were amongst the most successful, respected performers ever! Aretha Franklin also had such a severe fear of flying that she refused to sing in front of the Queen, because she was to terrified to fly.
Phobias really get in the way of living life! There is no need to live with a fear or phobia of speaking or performing. Hypnosis will help you get rid of your shyness and fears of public speaking and to feel altogether more relaxed, confident and comfortable.
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