Shyness is a horrible thing. It is a feeling of being awkward, worried, and self-conscious around other people. You really overthink what others think about you. You go over conversations in your head, again and again. Meeting new people can be especially difficult, or mixing with people who seem confident and loud.
When you suffer with shyness, what’s really going on? For most people it’s about not fitting in, making mistakes, fear of criticism. You feel you might do something embarrassing. Or perhaps you worry that you’ll forget what to say, or not be able to answer a question. You fear others thinking you’re stupid. You may fear being judged or disapproved of. Or maybe you stutter or stumble over your words, or blush when you’re anxious.
Build Confidence and Overcome Shyness
It’s really all about worrying what others think of you. Interview nerves and fear of public speaking are both rooted in shyness and self-consciousness. You become overly aware of what others might think, and how you’re coming across. Hypnotherapy works incredibly well to help you overcome shyness and self-consciousness.
Even if you don’t normally suffer with shyness or self consciousness, important occasions can be especially difficult. Perhaps it’s a party, or a wedding, or your first day at college or a new job. Interview nerves can affect you. And the thought of public speaking can turn otherwise confident people into wobbly wrecks! Hypnotherapy builds confidence so that you feel comfortable in ANY situation.
How phobias and shyness start?
Just because something has been difficult in the past doesn’t mean it needs to be difficult in the future.
Sometimes meeting new people becomes a big problem because you’ve felt self conscious, embarrassed and anxious in such situations before. You can’t think of being in a crowd, or meeting people, without having the feeling of anxiety which went along with it.
You might be consciously aware of this, or it might be going on at a subconscious level. But it’s an irrational belief. Just because you’ve suffered shyness, embarrassment, or anxiety in a past situation, doesn’t mean you’re bound to feel the same the next time that happens. Imagine you bumped your car yesterday, and that just before it happened, Bohemian Rhapsody was on the radio. It doesn’t mean that every time you hear Bohemian Rhapsody you will bump your car! Believing that you’ll have interview nerves because you had them before is about as logical as this, though. In other words, not logical at all! But unfortunately our mind and body is very good at remembering when we’ve felt anxious in the past.
How hypnotherapy helps shyness
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy help you to relax deeply. You forget to remember to feel stress and anxiety. First you’ll learn to become very deeply relaxed in hypnosis. You’ll be asked to imagine meeting people, talking to a group, or on the phone, for example. Because you are completely relaxed when you think about these things, you can do it without the associated anxiety and fear. This lets you deal with those situations when they next happen without those unpleasant feelings. This is because your sub-conscious no longer automatically associates the situation with the feelings of anxiety, fear and discomfort.
Shyness is often related to anxiety
Maybe you struggle not because of past events but because you’re generally anxious,stressed or worried. If you are anxious, you are overly aware of others’ reactions. You can be very sensitive to the possibility of things going wrong.
Manchester hypnotherapy clinic can help you get rid of the shyness and anxiety you’ve experienced before. We’ll help you gain confidence. You’ll develop positive ways to think about feeling comfortable with people, whether its meeting someone new or having an interview. We’ll teach you some really fantastic techniques to remain calm and relaxed. This means you’ll be able to remain relaxed and just talk to people whatever the occasion. Whether it’s a party, in a bar, at work, a job interview, or speaking at a wedding or other special occasion, you’ll be at your best.
Tips to help with interview nerves
1. Remember that having that meeting new people, whether in person or by phone is NOT in itself stressful. It’s the things you tell yourself about these situations that makes it seem stressful!
2. You don’t have to be perfect or absolutely brilliant. No-one ever is. You are allowed mistakes and stumbles – you will notice these far more than anyone else. If you do make a mistake, you can just laugh it off. You can even admit to feeling a bit nervous. People will warm to you. Humility, honesty and the ability to laugh at yourself allow people to see you as human and likeable. We’ve all been around people who will never admit to making a mistake. They’re not easy company!
3. You don’t have to try and be like someone else. Doing this is very difficult. Just be yourself – because this is very easy! Answer questions honestly. If you pretend to be someone you’re not fit in with a group, the chances are you won’t be that happy in their company! You’ll have to carry on pretending.
4. It’s impossible to please everyone. There are too many different points of view in the world. Don’t try and do this – be true to yourself. Assertiveness training can help with this.
5. The more you think about it, the more difficult it gets. Just relax and feel comfortable. Even the shyest person usually has someone they can speak to without feeling awkward. You speak to them without ever having to really think about it. And you don’t make mistakes, or if you do, you just move on to the next thing. It is anxiety that makes meeting people, social occasions and interviews seem difficult. Just relax and the anxiety will fade away. Hypnotherapy teaches you to do this.
Shyness and Self-consciousness can stop you from living life to the full
Even some people who are otherwise calm, relaxed and in control can find it difficult to have to get up and speak to a group of people. This is especially difficult on an important occasion such as a wedding, or if you’re up for promotion or a new job.
Shyness and Stage Fright
Barbra Streisand, Rihanna and Adele have talked about being physically sick before going on stage. (For more information on feeling or being sick, or rushing to the loo when nervous, look at the page on panic and anxiety attacks). This explains why you get the physical symptoms you do when you are anxious.
Aretha Franklin and Meryl Streep suffer badly with performance anxiety, as did Laurence Olivier. And these are the most successful and respected performers in the world. Aretha Franklin also had such a severe fear of flying that she refused to sing in front of the Queen. This was because she was to terrified to fly. Phobias really get in the way of living life! There is no need to live with a fear or phobia of meeting people, speaking or performing. Hypnosis will help you get rid of your shyness and self-consciousness.
Hypnosis for Interview Nerves in Manchester
The therapists at this south Manchester hypnotherapy clinic are Manchester’s top independently rated therapists in anxiety, insomnia and phobia treatment. If you are looking for hypnotherapists in south Manchester to help stress and anxiety, claustrophobia, or fear of flying, then please call us on 07779 575 816.
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Hypnosis and hypnotherapy in Didsbury, Manchester for shyness. Convenient for Chorlton, Gatley, Cheadle, Stockport, Altrincham, Hale and all areas of south and central Manchester. Click here for further details ofhow to find us.